How a break up lead me to my first solo trip

Hey loves! So I took my first solo trip earlier this year to Japan, and although it originally wasn’t a solo trip I’m glad it ended that way.

So let me back up, I know a few of you are wondering how this Eat Pray Love experience happened, so let me tell you. My boyfriend at the time and I were looking to go on our second trip together, we went on a romantic Mexico trip but this time we both wanted to do something more adventurous and far from New York as possible. We landed on Japan which was something on both of our bucket lists so it was a huge win when we were able to find round trip tickets for under $500. Yes I said under $500!

A month before the trip my boyfriend and I broke up. Not to get into too much detail but I wasn’t extremely happy and made some bad decisions which lead to the break up. Life happens no big deal in my mind but the upsetting part was that he no longer wanted to spend 12 days with me in Asia. In hindsight I can now see why he would feel uncomfortable about traveling alone with an ex, not all people can push aside their hurt feelings as I could at the time. So I then cancelled my flight because I was too scared to travel alone. My biggest hesitations were traveling alone to Asia and not knowing Japanese. If you been to a number of Asian countries like China you know that they don’t necessarily cater to western languages like they do in Europe and South America. Also sitting on a 13 hour flight with no one to talk to was nerve racking.

The turning point happened two weeks before the trip, I met with one of my favorite travel influencers Jakiya who manages @TravelingFro and a number of other creatives that have gone after their passions. A lot of people in the inspiring group were years into their journey and left me with the advice to never let anyone or anything stop you from accomplishing your goals and going after what you love. They also encouraged me to repurchase that ticket and gave some great recommendations.

So I booked that ticket, which was no where as cheap as the original, and had the best awakening experience.

Japan has taught me so many things about myself and only sharpened the drive that I had within to pursue my goals. Here’s some of the main things I’ve learned.

1.) Never let another person’s decision cancel your plans or stop you from attaining a certain goal.

2.) Take a leap of faith and go after those things that scare you because you’ve simply never experienced it. If you never gone on a solo trip mainly because you were afraid, put away that fear and go. You’ll be happy you did.

3.) Never stay in a unhappy relationship even if that person is good to you. It’s not fair to both parties.

4.) You get 100% control over your experience on a solo trip. Everything is on your time, and you also get to meet some cool like minded people on the way.

5.) Solo trips are a great way to self reflect on your life and gives you the opportunity to navigate through your journey with a clear mind.

For those of you who are reading this and have never gone on a solo trip, stop the fear and GO. For those that have gone through a a breakup or a devastating experience go on that solo trip to learn more about yourself you never know what you can find out.

Thanks Loves!

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Curacao Paradise

Hey Loves,

So today’s post is about my quick trip to Curacao. I wanted to share this with everyone especially Americans because not that many people have heard of this little Dutch island.

First and foremost it’s pronounced “Ku-rah-sou” not not “Ku-ra-Kao”. I learned that the hard way on day two of the trip when the young and very cute hotel concierge laughed at my friends and I for saying it wrong.

So you might be wondering more about this Island you never heard and I’m happy to share with you the little bit but I learned from the trip. It’s apart of the Kingdom of the Netherlands and sits in between the caribbean island Bonair and Aruba. It’s known for their beautiful beaches and they are beautiful.

Lodging

The part of the island we decided to stay in was Willemsted which is the capital. We stayed at this really cute waterfront hotel called Papagayo beach hotel. The rooms where huge and fairly priced. They also offered villas and apartment styled rooms for larger groups or those who decided to stay longer than a couple of weeks. It was very close to a couple restaurants and one of the main party bars on the island. The best part that it was literally a 3 minute walk to the beach. I love easy access.

People

The native people of Curacao are very beautiful and friendly. I mean the men were gorgeous. Everyone that we encountered was very positive and very generous with time and advice. It is a tourist driven country so the natives are use to dealing with people from out of town could be part of it. But for the main part my friends and I felt pretty safe walking around at night as a group.

Night Life

Because it was such a small city everyone pretty much goes to the same places every night. They have a weekly calendar of events and parties and essentially everyone is there from the locals to the tourist. There weren’t many places that were locals only, which we so desperately tried to find. We went to place that had Reggae, EDM and Hip Hop so there was music for almost everyone.

Local travel

It’s probably best to rent a car while you are there. Taxi’s were so expensive, it was a good thing we were in a group and were able to split the cost but transportation added up very quickly. We took their local bus a couple of times which saved us some money it was a little under $2 for a ride and was completely safe. Even at 11pm when we were trying to go out. Actually during that time its mainly young adults from Europe drinking beer heading to the same party on the island. So if you were going to party you were in good company.

My Opinion

Overall if you are looking for a beach getaway to a place where flights are very cheap Curacao is worth checking out. It’s a place that Americans don’t often flock to and the people and beaches are beautiful. If your interested I say definitely add this stamp in your passport for a quick weekend getaway!